I have run across several people lately that believe telling a lie is better than hurting someone’s feelings. I personally would rather hear the worse truth, then the best lie. It has been my experience that the truth eventually comes out or in other words, the lie is revealed. Now, the person has not only lied to me, hurt my feelings, and has insulted my intelligence.

I have discovered that most lies or deceptions have more to do with “an easy way out” for the deceptive than “hurting my feelings.” Most children, including myself would rather hear the truth. When someone tells us a lie, there are usually gaps in the story that the receiver has to fill in and in most cases, our imagination can get the best of us.

Children are resilient and can handle more than we give them credit. We try to protect our children from the truth. Instead, teach your children how to deal with diversity so they don’t grow up with a sense of unrealistic expectations and zero coping skills. As parents, we won’t always be around to stop the physical and emotional pain our children will encounter in life, but we can teach our children how to deal with upsets, disappointments, and failures. How do we do this? It starts by being honest and truthful about divorce, marriage, sex, love, finances. Parents need to be age appropriate and focus on delivery.

Is there a truth that is so bad, that a lie or deception would be better? Please share. I would love to know.