When couples separate and children are involved, I’m seeing that the children start taking on the leadership position within the family. Parents feel guilty for whatever reason and the children begin to decide what is best for the family. I say this in the sense that everything is done for the children’s sake rather than what is good for the whole. Forget about the needs of the adults, they’re the ones who couldn’t get along so they don’t count…lol.

From a spiritual perspective, our children are in our care for only a short period of time. They come into this world with lessons to be learned and experiences to be discovered. When we make decisions out of guilt or because in our minds we think it is “best for the children” then we take away the experience that should have been learned. I see adults from divorce DECIDE that marriage and children are not worth doing or having because of the responsibility and loss of freedom they saw and experienced in childhood. It’s important to show children of blended families that the parents are in charge and the children are children, but then again that “soul” may have chosen really “messed” parents for reason and just used their bodies as entrance to humanity.

How many times have you heard or said yourself…”after my parents split up, I had to become the parent.” or “I did whatever I wanted and used my parents against each other to get what I wanted.” We all come into the world with a level of consciousness, but character is built from childhood.

Be who God intended you to be and you’ll be a role model for humanity, not just the children. What are your thoughts?